Jennifer Hudson in Elle magazine

Jennifer Hudson is in July's Elle Magazine and this is the best I've ever seen her.

The photographer really did a good job capturing her beauty. Usually, when I see her in an editorial she looks horrible.

She usually looks awkward to me. I find it disappointing because I know that she is a beautiful girl.

But she looks great here! I have to give props to Elle because they showed many Black women in this month’s magazine. Not just the usually White girls. Maybe J-Hud is feeling more comfortable in front of the camera. Whatever it is she needs to keep it up!

Hating Ass Black Women

I hate it when I look at a sister and she looks at me like she could kill me. I HATE IT!!!!!!! But it happens so often that I really don't know what to do about it. I usually smile. Once that almost got me into a fight. And I had to set that sister STRAIGHT! I let her know that it was sad that she had so little love in her life that she would mistake a smile from someone as someone laughing at her.

And that it was not my problem if she thought so little of herself, that someone could not smile at her, they had to be laughing. She seemed shocked; partially I know it was because I was PISSED!

But it has happened so often to me.

Recently I was chatting with a man who is trying to court me, more on that later, when two black women, one light skinned and one dark drove up. Clearly they both thought that I was not cute, because the light one sits and waits for the guy to look at her. By that I mean, watch her with his eyes. He does not take the bait. She waits, he does nothing. Her friend gets out of the car and does whatever it is she has to do.

This girl gets out of the car and stands there! Waiting! He still will not look at her. She walks past us, he still does not look. She begins to stretch. At this point I am uncomfortable. She gets back in her car and looks at him. He then briefly looks at her. Her friend struts by, expecting to get some play. Still they get nothing. They look at each other and finally leave.

Once I was with my man of three years, yes I was looking a mess; we had finished a morning full of quality time and just wanted breakfast. Any who, I walk in with my man and these women, all black, turn and laugh out loud at me! I was so embarrassed. So was my man and so was our server.

I honestly believe these women did this because I had a man, and they probably didn't. Or they did but not one that treated them well.

This behavior is ridiculous! When I see one black woman attacking another woman, she is usually black. Where is the comradery? Where is the love?
I know that I am tired of this shit. Come on! We get so little love and support from the world the least we could do is support each other! God.

You Talk About a Good Man But...

We have all heard this one, “You talk about needing a good man, but when you get one you don’t know how to treat him.” I have found this to be true. I have heard so many women say, “He’s too nice,” when a man acts gentlemanly towards them. I have seen women take advantage of a man, when he is willing to do for her. Usually because she thinks he’s a sucker!

I personally have treated a good man like shit, and loved a bad man with reckless abandon. But we say we want a good man. Deep down I know what a woman means when she says “He’s too nice.”
It means: She wants a leader, not a follower.
A man who is bold and strong enough to
Protect her from harm. A man who will stand
Up to her and tell her when she is wrong.
A quintessial Alpha male.

But I think that somewhere along the line we as Black Women began to accept the extreme.
A man who is cold.
A man who is violent.
A man who refuses to listen.
A man who is stubborn to reason.

Somewhere along the line did we forget that we are women? I don’t care what any woman says. A woman needs a man.

To hold her. To caress her. To kiss her.
To tell her she is beautiful.
To support her emotionally when times are tough.
To help her financially when she falls down.
To aid her mentally when she is too tired
to think for herself.

A man, a true man, will do all of these things with integrity and will not try to take advantage of you. Most “Nice Guys” will do this for you. I don’t know, maybe if we treat the “Nice Guys” like the “Alpha Males” they will step up and be both.

Keke Palmer

Keke Palmer has been on the scene since 2004 when she appeared in Barbershop 2: Back in Business. Since then she has gone on to star in Akeelah and the Bee, a movie that I absolutely love, The Longshots, and plays the title character on Nickelodeon's True Jackson.

I believe that she is steadily building up a strong career for herself. I believe that we will see many good things from her in the future and I honestly hope that opportunities will continually present themselves. Obliviously, I wish Ms. Palmer the best in her career.

Oh, and by the way, she's only fifteen.