You Talk About a Good Man But...

We have all heard this one, “You talk about needing a good man, but when you get one you don’t know how to treat him.” I have found this to be true. I have heard so many women say, “He’s too nice,” when a man acts gentlemanly towards them. I have seen women take advantage of a man, when he is willing to do for her. Usually because she thinks he’s a sucker!

I personally have treated a good man like shit, and loved a bad man with reckless abandon. But we say we want a good man. Deep down I know what a woman means when she says “He’s too nice.”
It means: She wants a leader, not a follower.
A man who is bold and strong enough to
Protect her from harm. A man who will stand
Up to her and tell her when she is wrong.
A quintessial Alpha male.

But I think that somewhere along the line we as Black Women began to accept the extreme.
A man who is cold.
A man who is violent.
A man who refuses to listen.
A man who is stubborn to reason.

Somewhere along the line did we forget that we are women? I don’t care what any woman says. A woman needs a man.

To hold her. To caress her. To kiss her.
To tell her she is beautiful.
To support her emotionally when times are tough.
To help her financially when she falls down.
To aid her mentally when she is too tired
to think for herself.

A man, a true man, will do all of these things with integrity and will not try to take advantage of you. Most “Nice Guys” will do this for you. I don’t know, maybe if we treat the “Nice Guys” like the “Alpha Males” they will step up and be both.